がましい turns a noun or a ます-stem into an い-adjective meaning "smacking of
X": it has the air of X, and the speaker doesn't like it. It is not
productive. It lives in a set of fixed words, and you learn those rather
than build new ones.
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Pushy kindness is a nuisance.
押しつけ: forcing something on someone.
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I'm sick of the way he talks as if he's done me a favour.
恩着せ: making someone feel they owe you.
、。
It may sound like an excuse, but I really was busy.
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I don't want to be seen as a man who can't let go.
未練: attachment you can't give up.
The others you will meet are (reproachful), (sounding like you're chasing someone) and , which is close to
言い訳がましい.
差し出がましいようですが
means "presumptuous, overstepping". Its most common use is
about yourself, as a polite cushion before advice nobody asked for.
催促がましい works the same way in a business email that asks again for a
reply.
、。
I don't mean to overstep, but may I say something?
、。
I'm sorry to chase you, but could I have your reply?
Usage notes
These go beyond the plain adjective.
Adverb and negative
がましい conjugates as an い-adjective. The く-form describes how someone acts.
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Stop clinging on and messaging your ex.
、。
She helped me quietly, without making me feel I owed her.
晴れがましい
, "glorious, in the spotlight", is the one common word with
no criticism in it. It is about a proud public occasion.
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The proud day of the graduation ceremony arrived.
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